Resources
Drop the Battle. Win the War that Matters.
Within the pages of this book is a unique opportunity to make choices about your participation in a child custody evaluation. The cast of characters will teach you how to avoid common pitfalls and how to achieve the best outcome. Through this insightful and witty choose-your-own-outcome-style story, I share more than two decades of trade secrets and all the Hints, Hacks, and Hell No’s that will help you win the war that matters.
By the end of the book, you will know how to:
- Protect your child’s emotional health and well-being.
- Acquire resources to manage specific challenges.
- Discern which attorney will hurt or help your efforts.
- Impress the heck out of your evaluator.
- Save your family time and money.
- Keep your sanity and thrive on the other side.
The Choices We Make, Make Us.
Resources
Drop the Battle. Win the War that Matters.
Within the pages of this book is a unique opportunity to make choices about your participation in a child custody evaluation. The cast of characters will teach you how to avoid common pitfalls and how to achieve the best outcome. Through this insightful and witty choose-your-own-outcome-style story, I share more than two decades of trade secrets and all the Hints, Hacks, and Hell No’s that will help you win the war that matters.
By the end of the book, you will know how to:
- Protect your child’s emotional health and well-being.
- Acquire resources to manage specific challenges.
- Discern which attorney will hurt or help your efforts.
- Impress the heck out of your evaluator.
- Save your family time and money.
- Keep your sanity and thrive on the other side.
The Choices We Make, Make Us.
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Watch the “Best Next Step” Starter!
In this video presentation, I will help you put your child’s well-being at the center of your dissolution process. We will talk about WHY putting your child first is the best approach, and you will learn exactly what it means to do this, what happens to children whose parents fail to do it, and the most common mistakes that lead to poor outcomes for children. You will walk away with a list of Hints, Hacks, and Hell No’s that you can start using today to make this a better experience for you and your child.
Watch the “Best Next Step” Starter!
In this video presentation, I will help you put your child’s well-being at the center of your dissolution process. We will talk about WHY putting your child first is the best approach, and you will learn exactly what it means to do this, what happens to children whose parents fail to do it, and the most common mistakes that lead to poor outcomes for children. You will walk away with a list of Hints, Hacks, and Hell No’s that you can start using today to make this a better experience for you and your child.
“Child-Focused Divorce” Course!
Make Better Choices with the “Child-Focused Divorce” Course!
This pre-recorded training will help you customize your plan for putting your child’s well-being at the center of your dissolution process.
I will guide you through the process of clarifying, redefining, and developing a plan for:
- Roles and Responsibilities of Everyone Involved: It’s not uncommon for parents to misunderstand roles and responsibilities, including their own. We’ll cover the basics for You, Your Child’s Other Parent, Your Child, The System, and Your Child’s Social Capital.
- Meeting Your Child’s Universal and Unique Needs and Desires: Together, we will dig deeper into your current experience and find specific new choices for words, expressions, and behaviors that will nurture your child’s well-being.
- Your Mindful Approach: You will discover more about YOU and the true guiding principles that will create a solid foundation for all of your future choices. This is a powerful way to create stability for yourself and your children and impress the heck out of your evaluator and judge.
This course is for you if are:
- thinking about filing for or modifying custody, or are in the middle of a divorce
- feeling hurt, betrayed, angry, sad, and all the feels
- worried that you don’t have what it takes to survive this process
- concerned about the financial and emotional cost of dissolution
- determined to protect your children as much as you can
- not ready or able to invest in coaching and consulting services willing to spend a few hours getting real about what’s happening in your family and completing exercises that I share with my clients to help you create better outcomes for your children
Get Notified When The Course Launches
“Child-Focused Divorce” Course!
Make Better Choices with the “Child-Focused Divorce” Course!
This pre-recorded training will help you customize your plan for putting your child’s well-being at the center of your dissolution process.
I will guide you through the process of clarifying, redefining, and developing a plan for:
- Roles and Responsibilities of Everyone Involved: It’s not uncommon for parents to misunderstand roles and responsibilities, including their own. We’ll cover the basics for You, Your Child’s Other Parent, Your Child, The System, and Your Child’s Social Capital.
- Meeting Your Child’s Universal and Unique Needs and Desires: Together, we will dig deeper into your current experience and find specific new choices for words, expressions, and behaviors that will nurture your child’s well-being.
- Your Mindful Approach: You will discover more about YOU and the true guiding principles that will create a solid foundation for all of your future choices. This is a powerful way to create stability for yourself and your children and impress the heck out of your evaluator and judge.
This course is for you if are:
- thinking about filing for or modifying custody, or are in the middle of a divorce
- feeling hurt, betrayed, angry, sad, and all the feels
- worried that you don’t have what it takes to survive this process
- concerned about the financial and emotional cost of dissolution
- determined to protect your children as much as you can
- not ready or able to invest in coaching and consulting services willing to spend a few hours getting real about what’s happening in your family and completing exercises that I share with my clients to help you create better outcomes for your children
Get Notified When The Course Launches
More Resources
Online Resources for Parents
The Oregon State Bar provides legal resources and attorney information. If you live in another state, click HERE.
Oregon Judicial Department (OJD)
Discover general information as well as calculators to determine different child support scenarios.
American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers
This organization provides a wide range of information and resources for people navigating divorce.
Find general resources for anyone going through a divorce.
State Family Law Advisory Committee (SFLAC)
The Chief Justice of the Oregon Supreme Court appoints SFLAC members to advise the State Court Administrator on family law issues in the courts.
Online Resources About Children's Needs During Divorce
They have great suggestions on how to stay focused on children while your family undergoes divorce.
This Portland-based organization is devoted to protecting the rights of children involved in high-conflict domestic relations cases.
Find suggestions on how to minimize the impact of divorce on children.
Online Resources for Single Parents
This is a single parent network.
Financial Resources
Online Resources for Grandparents and Third Parties
Family & Community Health (OSU Extension Service)
Check out the 84-page publication regarding grandparent and third party issues.
Online Resources for Blended Families
National Stepfamily Resource Center
Their featured program, Smart Steps, is designed for remarried or partnering couples and their children. It focuses on building couple and family strengths while addressing the unique needs and issues that face couples in stepfamilies.
For stepfamilies seeking advice about the complexities of blending two families following divorce.
Online Resources for Effective and Safe Communication
Families use this online platform for sharing information and communicating about children following divorce. You must sign up for this site and there is an annual fee. The annual cost is a fraction of an attorney’s (or evaluator’s) hourly fee!
Relevant Oregon Statutes
Factors considered in determining legal custody of minor children
Rights of a person who establishes emotional ties creating a child-parent relationship or ongoing personal relationship (grandparents and third parties)
Joint custody of a child, modification
Investigation of parties in domestic relations suits involving children
Others
More Resources
Online Resources for Parents
The Oregon State Bar provides legal resources and attorney information. If you live in another state, click HERE.
Oregon Judicial Department (OJD)
Discover general information as well as calculators to determine different child support scenarios.
American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers
This organization provides a wide range of information and resources for people navigating divorce.
Find general resources for anyone going through a divorce.
State Family Law Advisory Committee (SFLAC)
The Chief Justice of the Oregon Supreme Court appoints SFLAC members to advise the State Court Administrator on family law issues in the courts.
Online Resources About Children's Needs During Divorce
They have great suggestions on how to stay focused on children while your family undergoes divorce.
This Portland-based organization is devoted to protecting the rights of children involved in high-conflict domestic relations cases.
Find suggestions on how to minimize the impact of divorce on children.
Online Resources for Single Parents
This is a single parent network.
Financial Resources
Online Resources for Grandparents and Third Parties
Family & Community Health (OSU Extension Service)
Check out the 84-page publication regarding grandparent and third party issues.
Online Resources for Blended Families
National Stepfamily Resource Center
Their featured program, Smart Steps, is designed for remarried or partnering couples and their children. It focuses on building couple and family strengths while addressing the unique needs and issues that face couples in stepfamilies.
For stepfamilies seeking advice about the complexities of blending two families following divorce.
Online Resources for Effective and Safe Communication
Families use this online platform for sharing information and communicating about children following divorce. You must sign up for this site and there is an annual fee. The annual cost is a fraction of an attorney’s (or evaluator’s) hourly fee!
Relevant Oregon Statutes
Factors considered in determining legal custody of minor children
Rights of a person who establishes emotional ties creating a child-parent relationship or ongoing personal relationship (grandparents and third parties)
Joint custody of a child, modification
Investigation of parties in domestic relations suits involving children
Others
When You Love Someone
by James TW
When You Love Someone
by James TW